Night fears, such as the darkness, noises, and monsters, are very common in children because of different factors. One is excessive exposure to media including television shows, movies, or books that are scary. Another reason is the child’s wide imagination because of what he/she talked about with his/her friends or classmates.
As a parent, it is one of your responsibilities to help your child overcome fear. Gwen Dewar, a Ph.D. from University of Michigan and author of Parenting Science, developed a checklist for helping your child and it takes a lot of patience to do this. Just to highlight some of the main points of the said checklist, you have to evaluate your child’s sleeping schedule if he/she is sleepy enough to fall asleep immediately so as not having to stay awake in the dark for too long. Providing a night light or a stuffed toy may help your child feel secure. In the moment of nightmares, assure your child that those were not real and divert his/her attention to think happy thoughts.
In the website of the Cleveland Clinic, one important tip to help your child overcome night fear is to avoid exposing him/her to frightening bedtime stories. It’s very important to pick the right book. The Monster on Top of the Bed is a very helpful book to banish night fears because of the value of friendship between Suzy and Karrit. Suzy symbolizes the character of a child who has fears about anything, which is the common scenario for any child at bedtime.
Karrit represents either the monster or any type of fear, which a child is afraid of. However, this story is remarkable since the monster, Karrit, is scared of the child, Suzy until they get to know each other and become best friends. Karrit can serve as an inspiration for your child to cope with his/her fears by picturing himself/herself to be like Suzy. Further, this book has well-designed illustrations that will encourage your child to read more.
“Often, if you’re able to talk about your child’s fears, they become less scary,” says Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., coauthor of Positive Discipline. A related book, My Monster on Top of the Bed, takes a unique approach. It is the same book but without any words written on it. Instead of having to just talk to your child about his/her fears, this book will motivate your child to write his/her own story. Thus, your child will be given a chance to reflect on what his/her fears are and what solution to come up with. The most crucial part here is how your child is able to create his/her own capability to fight imaginary creatures or other types of fear. In the Article entitled, “Go Away Monster,” that appeared in Parents.com, Dr. Nelsen stated, “Ultimately, the more capable a child feels, the less likely [he/]she is to be afraid.”
My Monster on Top of the Bed the book where children write their own story
The Monster on Top of the Bed the book with the story
The Monster on Top of the Bed-Creative Edition (both books in one)